Ron and Tonya Ruiz » Author, Speaker, Writer

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  • Karen Power - December 9, 2013 - 5:05 pm

    Hi Tonya,

    Love watching your family grow! Merry Christmas and many blessings to you all in 2014!


  • Theresa Frazier - December 9, 2013 - 7:20 pm

    I absolutely love your newsletter and that it the happenings with all your kids! You are blessed beyond golden treasures.

    Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and yours! Much love.ReplyCancel

  • Ron Parizeau & Gang - December 10, 2013 - 12:56 am

    Getting close to those ‘golden years’ but enjoying our fellowship throughout the years as more precious than gold. Love you guys and your beautiful family. I can’t wait to browse the Ruiz Christmas songs and thanks again for another great news-letter. May the Lord continue to bless and lead you as you follow in His Way.
    Merry Christmas to the whole family,
    Ron, Anne, Monique, Daniel, Robert, JJ, Steven, Raquel, Michael
    Parizeau and Nicole, Jesse, Jessica, and David Oquist(now in TX).
    Close to Art and his family.ReplyCancel

  • mary Patton - December 10, 2013 - 4:38 am

    Dear Pastor Ron and Tonya,
    Praising God for the spiritual gold (His grace) He has imparted through you both to enrich and bless so many of us with His/your ministries of worship and teaching…and the gold vein that’s still producing nuggets to this day:)))
    Thanking God for the precious gifts of your children who also have richly blessed us
    in the worship ministry and children’s ministry and the Lord knows just how much more.
    Grateful to God for the years of fellowship and His miraculous moving in our lives to
    touch us through the saints like you when we need Jesus with skin on. Thank you Father! Thank you both!
    May our Father continue to inspire you both in His service and use you all till we meet Him in glory where the streets are paved with gold…and we behold our Savior!
    We are truly rich because we are hidden with Christ in God…now and forever.
    Alan and MaryReplyCancel

  • Bob and Darlene Owens - December 10, 2013 - 11:27 am

    So great to see your family and to see you both standing since your surgeries. Praying that you are still getting stronger each day and that your family stays close, as you are all a light to us who have read your Christmas letters each year. We miss you terribly. Bob and I are doing well, God takes care of everything. He is too good to us. God bless your 30th years together. Love you guys, Bob and DarleneReplyCancel

  • Carrie Karkut - December 10, 2013 - 3:44 pm

    Love to the Ruiz family, I greatly enjoyed the clever verbiage and pictures!ReplyCancel

  • Donna Wilson - December 10, 2013 - 4:23 pm

    As always, your Christmas letters are so creatively written, and beautifully put together! Your family is such a blessing to us. Seeing the fruit of your faithful labor in your children’s lives, and now at work in their children, is absolutely wonderful and extremely encouraging! Praise be to God! For HE alone is worthy to be praised and lifted high! Keep on serving the One and Only Most High God!

    “Happy Birthday JESUS!”

    Love you,
    The Wilson’sReplyCancel

  • Amy Ellsworth - December 10, 2013 - 6:25 pm

    Great letter! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!ReplyCancel

  • Lee Allton - December 11, 2013 - 12:25 am

    Just lovely! I always look forward to your cards… love it! Merry Christmas to all of you, sure do miss you…. Praying for you always… Eric and Lee AlltonReplyCancel

  • Andrea Lowe - December 11, 2013 - 1:13 am

    I love, love, love your Christmas letter! :) I’m going to print it out and put it with our other letters. We so much love and appreciate you and your family!!!ReplyCancel

  • Franklin E Hughes - December 11, 2013 - 4:38 pm

    Thanks for sharing your family. Great photos. I am blessed with a fine christian family. Merry Christmas to everyone. Ron and you are remembered in my prayers. FrankReplyCancel

  • Roel and Evelyne Pantig - December 14, 2013 - 1:06 am

    It’s always nice to hear update about your family. We miss you all so much and hoping to see all someday soon. My family is growing too. We’re expecting grandbaby #3 in March. They bring so much joy. Have a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Love from the PANTIG.ReplyCancel

Ronald, from the minute the first pregnancy test was positive – you embraced fatherhood wholeheartedly. After waiting 34 years to become a parent, you relished every second of the experience. You could change a diaper like a pro, extract man-sized burps from small infants, and sooth them to sleep with your lullabies. 

 As our little ones grew, you told them stories of your childhood, planted vegetable gardens together, and shared your love of fishing – while patiently untangling miles of line and retrieving countless snagged lures.

 You knew that your most important job was to train them in the ways of God. You taught them right from wrong and corrected them in love. I think spanking them was harder on you then the kids! Bedtime stories were from the Children’s Bible, and then you got down on your knees alongside them and taught them by example that prayer was talking to a Living God. You, also, taught them what it means to truly worship through music. (And they have followed in your footsteps!)

 As they grew, you had trouble letting go – driver’s licenses, dates, and college were milestones that tugged on your heartstrings. Later, you had a lump in your throat and tears in your eyes as you officiated at their wedding ceremonies.

Grandbabies were the icing on your Fatherhood Cake. You have delighted in each one. Jude was born to be your fishing buddy and Zara your princess to spoil. When Cruz was adopted, you bonded instantly because you finally had a grandchild with your “pikey” black hair. Little blond Ever became your Snow Gopher – a name she MIGHT allow until adolescence. Ruby entered the world and became your “Sunshine, my only sunshine,” and she would soon learn to sing the song along with you. One look at tiny Quin and you finally had your “Sha la la la la la la la la la la la la brown-eyed-girl.” Recently, to add to your overflowing cup, baby Dean was born and you were the first one to make him laugh. Seven little lives (so far) – the next generation.

During this recent difficult season of your life – while you have quietly endured pain and suffering, surgeries and medications, your children showed up to sit beside your hospital beds or next to the couch. They have shown their love and devotion in so many ways. The children that you shared stories with, kept warm, fed, loved, and sang to– have showed up to do the same for you. The grandchildren have constantly piled on top of the couch to keep you company. This wasn’t done out of obligation, but because of the love and the respect that they have for you.

 Our children and grandchildren are blessed to have a father and grandfather like you – a man of character and integrity. You are a rare treasure indeed. Happy Fathers’ Day!

Many times over the years, I have been around sick people. I owe them an apology – and unfortunately, many of them are not here to receive it. You’re probably wondering, “What could she have done now?” Well, let me tell you. When visiting at the hospital, their homes, or just running into them, I commented on their appearance; “Wow, you look great!” “I love your hair (a wig)!” or “I’m surprised to see you looking so good!” Everyone loves compliments, right?

I think back to three specific visits; a woman who had recently had part of her intestines removed, a friend who was dying from cancer, and a man who had suffered a stroke. They could and probably should have yelled at me; “I am suffering,” “I’m dying– who cares about my hair!” or “Are you blind, my left side is paralyzed and I may never walk again.” Yes, they did look good – but I wish instead of complimenting them, I should have touched their arms and said, “I’m so happy to see you and I’m so sorry you’re sick.”

I am amazed at the grace I was shown. Sick people seem to be given an extra measure of graciousness or perhaps it is the pain mediation.

My husband has been sick for a long time. He has had numerous surgeries. He is not well. BUT…HE LOOKS MARVELOUS! When we see anyone we know, they compliment him and tell him how healthy he looks. I want to carry x-rays in my purse that show the screws inserted in his spine that are causing him so much pain.I want to enlarge the picture the hand surgeon took of the tumor compressing the Median Nerve in his wrist. I want to read the long prescription list that I am in charge of dispensing.

I asked Ron, “Does it bother you that everyone compliments you?” “Why?” he asked. “Because,” I insisted, “it’s as if they are dismissing how sick you are.” He lovingly replied, “Honey, they were just being nice.” And they were.

I have learned a lesson. I now know the difference between sympathy and empathy. When I visited a sick person in the past, I had sympathy for them and was truly sorry they were sick. Now, I can empathize because I have seen sick close up and it’s not pretty. From observation, I can tell you that pain wears you out, taking medications is tedious, and being constantly ill is the pits.
Lord willing, when Ron gets well, we will have the privilege of going on hospital visits and I know just what I’m going to say.

  • Suzanne Herz - March 21, 2013 - 9:32 pm

    Oh Tonya, I hear you. When my best friend, who was actually my sister, had terminal cancer at the age of 25, she too heard those very words. My sister and I where really close and she shared a lot if her feelings with me during those 5 years. The one that hurt the most for her was … You look good, …. You look great… You seem good, ect. After those visitors left she would share with me ” my disease is on the inside, not the outside! It did minute everything that she was going through on the inside. I seem her not only suffer from the disease but also from a lot of emotional disease as well. Sometimes it was easier for her to say no visitors and I gladly followed the patients order! No insensitive visitors or skeptics allowed! Her Dr. told her to watch a lot if comedy’s and laugh often and keep away from all negativity. We fell in love with Lucy and Carol Burnett and Tim Conway! Those are the best visitors. Oh and grand kids .ReplyCancel

  • Kim - May 12, 2013 - 11:42 pm

    Lots of prayer for you both. It can become very hard I. Both you and unjust pray for a peace for you both and a healing for Ron. My heart goes out to you both. Love you!ReplyCancel

When my newest grandson was born, I got to keep the two big sisters while their mommy was in the hospital. My husband, the usual cook in the family is sick, so I was in charge of dinner. Ruby said, “Grandma, I’m hungry.”“Okay,” I replied, “Let’s go see what we can scrounge up.” As I took her little hand and walked to the kitchen, she asked, “Do you use recipes?” “No, but we can find something to eat,” I assured her. After a moment’s hesitation, her three-year-old hazel eyes got as big as saucers, she looked at me very seriously and said, “Maybe I better just put peanut butter on graham crackers.” Sadly, even a small child knows better than to trust me in the kitchen.

  • Lee - March 7, 2013 - 10:30 pm

    hahahahhaha they are brilliant those little ones…. mine find “yuckies” in their Nana’s recipes….. hahahhahaReplyCancel