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Barbie Gets Real

Can Barbie Get Real? For many years I wrote and spoke about body image and I had a few Barbie Dolls that traveled with me. During my speeches, I would hold them up and say, “I believe these dolls set a standard for perfection that is unattainable for any human and gives your young daughters...

Sexual Harassment in The Modeling Industry

“Sexual Harassment was an everyday occurrence when I was modeling,” I said to my husband as I watched the news reports about Harvey Weinstein. “He is just like so many of the agents and photographers I encountered as a fashion model.” I thought back to the fall of 1979… One humid August day, soon after...

Success in Modeling?

Modeling is a tough business for anyone and especially a teenager. Two On The Town, a Los Angeles television show, did a feature on modeling. The introduction stated that it is not enough just to be beautiful—that height, weight and bone structure alone will not make you a model. They posed the question, “What does...

Lower Your Expectations

I laughed when I saw this at the store because “Lower your expectations and then you won’t be disappointed” is something my friend, Nancy, and I say to each other. Lower your expectations in THINGS THAT DO NOT MATTER! Give Grace where you can and encouragement when you can. Love all those imperfect quirky humans...

Compare and Despair

Click here to read Time.com Why Instagram is the Worst Social Media for Mental Health Does social media cause you to “Compare and despair” and feel inadequate? Do you struggle with Anxiety, Depression or FOMO (fear of missing out)? I read an article that being on social media can ruin both your sleep and body-image,...

“So mama don’t take my Kodachrome away”

I don’t have a lot of memories of my childhood. We found a box of slides in the attic – oh my! So many glimpses into the past. The further I am from my childhood- the better it looks. It seems my father and Kodachrome captured the best memories. “So mama don’t take my Kodachrome away”...

Count Your Blessings

  There was a day when the only thing I had to care for was my ’75 red Mustang. One husband, four kids, and ten grandchildren later – my life is MORE. More complicated. More laughter. More tears. More joy. More pain. More people. More problems. More to pray for. More to love. Just MORE....

Who Is The Chubby Lady IN THE PICTURE?

When I see my fifty-something self in pictures, I cringe and my inner voice says, “Yikes, who is the chubby lady?” The ironic thing is that I use to be a teenage-fashion model. When I was very young, thin and FABULOUS, I looked at pictures of myself, cringed, and my inner voice said, “Yikes!” I’ve...

Inner Makeover – True Beauty Revealed

Challenge – The Good News Paper wrote an article about me: Beauty beyond Barbie — Former international Ford fashion model Tonya Ruiz shares how an inner makeover revealed her true beauty Tonya Ruiz says,“Looking beautiful outwardly is only skin deep, but being beautiful is soul deep.” On Tonya’s third birthday her eyes lit up as...